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Lynda Beth Unkeless, J. D.'s avatar

I agree that there is no substitute for doing inner work and self-care.

Those life-long tasks are never-ending.

However, in times of sudden crisis and especially sudden grief, caring and compassionate therapists act as essential allies in maintaining mental health.

Being vulnerable and asking for help can be

a sign of strength.

Ultimately, though liberation is an Inside Job.

And working with The Body is absolutely key!

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Tomas Milka's avatar

If during the tough times you will find the strength within, you will evolve into a stronger version of yourself. Thank you for reading.

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Qi Bing SIA's avatar

A little different opinion. I personally have been going to a psychologist for session discussing about psychology (a senior at the same Uni) for years now. Really productive 1 hour every 2 months. Just checking up with child psychology (her specialty) and talk about psychology, life and philosophy. Well spent money in my humble opinion.

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Tomas Milka's avatar

Thank you for expressing your point of view. I believe your psychologist share the same opinion. If you are content with these type of relationships and want to continue, go for it.

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Janet Goh's avatar

you know why I have such a strong distaste for psychology services. All the things people do in a therapy room can be naturally practised in our lives.⬅️ Yeah! I knew cos I'm the same. I think that everyone should do the inner work on themselves. No amount of therapy can help if we are unwilling to do the work once we leave the therapy room.

However, there are always exceptions.

My sister in NZ didn't know she had DID until she went to a therapist. After she went for countless of sessions, the therapist identify her with 12 different personalities living within her.

Finally, everything makes sense to her n she felt "normal" after knowing what was going on.

It helped her to understand herself better n can catch herself in time before any of her personality emerge to wreak havoc.

Staying with her for a month in April, I could tell when she had a switched. It wasn't anything drastic, just a little mood swing n change of preference in having her coffee cos I was the one who makes most of her drink.

She no longer goes to the therapist but does the work herself n I'm very proud her. I admire her strength n resilient for being such a strong person even though she went through so much in life! 👍💪✌️🙏😊

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Tomas Milka's avatar

Janet, I am grateful for your insightful comment. Your sisters story is a great example of the path, that I believe people should aim for. If one is in the total dark, sure, get some outside help. But do not make a lifestyle out of it. Go for self-reliance and psychological independence. I will expand on it in my new email course called Building Mental & Emotional Resilience.

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Janet Goh's avatar

Tomas, it is always my pleasure to share!👍😉

I will expand on it in my new email course called Building Mental & Emotional Resilience.⬅️I am glad you are embarking on a new journey to help others in the community! This is great work you are doing! Keep up the good work!🙏😊

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Tomas Milka's avatar

Thank you, Janet!

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Janet Goh's avatar

The pleasure is always mine, Tomas!✌️👍💪🙏🥰

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Paolo Peralta's avatar

Empowering ❤️

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Tomas Milka's avatar

Thank you!

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